Their reaction to a participant in the underwear contest @planettammie @itsravenhunty (at 340nightclub)
I’m only speaking for myself here, but that entire segment left me really uncomfortable. You know how Americans like to look down on other cultures for not praising their daughters like they praise their sons… and I’m just like… yes, because shaming your children and letting tension grow into estrangement because they didn’t follow the gender norms requires SO much better parenting. lol please.
This is just so upsetting to me to see people I look up to attribute their estranged relationships to not following gender norms… when they are drag queens. How deeply ingrained heteronormativity is in our society really disturbs me. I mean I understand people value their relationships with their parents but I honestly don’t feel like you deserve to call yourself a good parent when you choose not to be supportive of your children, regardless of what or who they are. WE as a community, should not have to feel shame or guilt or pain for the shit our parents can’t grasp their ~oldfashioned minds around.
Feel free to discuss this issue with me, I’d like to hear your stories, thoughts, or whatever you have to say, but please understand that for the majority of my life I’ve had to deal with people treating me like I’m empty, or somehow less of a person for not having a father around and it seriously infuriates me beyond explanation when people even try to insinuate that only having one parent isn’t enough. And I’m not even gonna go into the nitty~gritty of me and my mom’s relationship because that’s a whole other load of dynamics and history I don’t want to talk about right now. but ugh seriously, the fact that we have to make straight male fathers proud of us even though “we’re not the men they thought they were going to raise.”
LIKE I NEEDED TO HAVE A MAN IN MY LIFE TO MAKE ME FEEL LIKE SHIT FOR NOT PLAYING SPORTS. All I needed in my life was someone to stand up for myself when I couldn’t, and now I only have all of the brave drag queens and single mothers out there that came before me to let this little gay kid have just a shedding of self esteem.